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Tue Nov 13, 2012, 10:20 AM

How Often Do People Have Sex at the Office?


How Often Do People Have Sex at the Office?
By Arianne Cohen on November 12, 2012


(Bloomberg Businessweek) As someone who reads people’s sex diaries professionally—for my books and website I collect thousands of them—I am here to report that former CIA Director David Petraeus is really just a talented guy who, considering his marital and work history, is a typical American male.

Petraeus has been married for 38 years. Very few human beings sleep with just one person in a 38-year period. Most people simply aren’t married that long. According to the Census, the majority of marriages end long before the 38th anniversary mark (the average divorce occurs eight years after the wedding), and of the marriages that stay intact for 38 years, approximately half involve at least one other sexual partner.

Various news outlets reported that Petraeus had sex under his desk at CIA headquarters. This makes his case a rare one. Although the workplace is the most common place to meet a new partner, few people actually have sex at the office—in the 3,500 diaries I’ve read, a grand total of 11 office affairs actually took place within the workplace walls. Workaholics logging long hours, particularly those working 12- to 18-hour days, account for seven of those 11. (Oh, and regarding the issue of on the desk vs. under the desk, I’ve discovered that people who prefer steadiness and balance—and the kinds of sexual positions given names such as “missionary,” for instance—opt for the floor. The desk is the domain of more acrobatic love-makers.)

Offices are no longer the great bastions of sex that they were in the Mad Men era, when doors were thick and carpeting thicker. The age of wide open “co-working environments,” glass walls, and security cameras has made the office a difficult place to find privacy. (Unless, of course, your office in a mid-20th-century government building is possibly camera-free and fully secure because you’re the head of U.S. intelligence—and perhaps your boss will never notice because he’s the president of the U.S. during an election year. Just saying.) ....................(more)

The complete piece is at: http://www.businessweek.com/articles/2012-11-12/how-often-do-people-have-sex-at-the-office



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Reply How Often Do People Have Sex at the Office? (Original post)
marmar Nov 2012 OP
HopeHoops Nov 2012 #1
FSogol Nov 2012 #2
Brickbat Nov 2012 #3
Eleanors38 Nov 2012 #4
hobbit709 Nov 2012 #5
Aerows Nov 2012 #8
snooper2 Nov 2012 #14
Aerows Nov 2012 #15
txdemsftw Nov 2012 #16
hobbit709 Nov 2012 #22
Aerows Nov 2012 #24
One_Life_To_Give Nov 2012 #6
Aerows Nov 2012 #7
hootinholler Nov 2012 #9
Aerows Nov 2012 #13
hootinholler Nov 2012 #19
Aerows Nov 2012 #25
slackmaster Nov 2012 #10
Coyotl Nov 2012 #11
Whiskeytide Nov 2012 #12
Johonny Nov 2012 #18
Evasporque Nov 2012 #17
Berlum Nov 2012 #20
Springslips Nov 2012 #21
Aerows Nov 2012 #26
Kablooie Nov 2012 #23
LadyHawkAZ Nov 2012 #27
marmar Nov 2012 #30
Kablooie Nov 2012 #33
The Straight Story Nov 2012 #28
War Horse Nov 2012 #29
marmar Nov 2012 #31
Xithras Nov 2012 #32

Response to marmar (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 11:12 AM

1. Well, I have in all but two jobs. With my SO of the time, mind you.

 

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Response to marmar (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 11:15 AM

2. Do you mean just this morning?

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Response to marmar (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 11:19 AM

3. Do you mean "with co-workers," or by bringing outsiders into the office?

I'm asking for a friend.

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Response to marmar (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 11:20 AM

4. Improved HVAC can hide the evidence!

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Response to marmar (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 11:20 AM

5. Define "office"

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Response to hobbit709 (Reply #5)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 11:48 AM

8. LOL

Yeah does out in the parking lot count?

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Response to Aerows (Reply #8)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 11:57 AM

14. how about the roof of the infomart

in dallas



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Response to snooper2 (Reply #14)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 11:58 AM

15. Impressive!

Truly impressive

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Response to snooper2 (Reply #14)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 11:59 AM

16. I will never look

at that place the same again.

ha!

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Response to Aerows (Reply #8)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 12:41 PM

22. From Mau-Mau (Amerikon)

"Sign me up as a diplomat - my only office is the park"

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Response to hobbit709 (Reply #22)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 04:18 PM

24. *smirk*

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Response to marmar (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 11:46 AM

6. Sex in a Cubicle?

Would that be with the 48in partitions or the old fashioned 60in partitions?

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Response to marmar (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 11:47 AM

7. Does the wiring closet count?

I had a legitimate reason for being in there (since I was working on a router and obviously had the keys). It's not my fault that the person who reported it followed me in there, was a very good looking woman and the door closed .

Neither of us were involved with anyone else at the time. I think mine might be pretty out of the ordinary though, because I'm a woman, as well. That was a really nice day.

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Response to marmar (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 11:49 AM

9. Still on my bucket list

Does it have to be my or my partner's office to count?

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Response to hootinholler (Reply #9)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 11:56 AM

13. I don't think you have to *literally* be in your office

I think anywhere on the premises counts. If it's in the middle of the day and work is going on elsewhere in the premises, I would say it definitely counts. My office has always had too much traffic and crap in it, anyway for anything more exciting than preventing people from having heart attacks because the network or a server has gone down.

Elsewhere in the building? Servers aren't the only thing that ...

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Response to Aerows (Reply #13)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 12:03 PM

19. Well then this one time in boot camp

We did it in the CO's office (no not with the CO) two recruits assigned to clean it.

But as to my office, well not yet

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Response to hootinholler (Reply #19)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 04:22 PM

25. I think that counts :D

But if you aspire to christen your office, I encourage you to find a way to do so

You know you want to!

I'd christen mine, but honestly, it's just not adventurous enough for me

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Response to marmar (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 11:50 AM

10. That would violate the dress code where I work

 

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Response to marmar (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 11:52 AM

11. Petraeus' boss is the Chief of National Intelligence, not Obama.

There is a chain of command, and Petraeus is NOT one step from Obama.

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Response to marmar (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 11:55 AM

12. Apparently none of you people are lawyers...

... we screw people in our offices all day long.

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Response to Whiskeytide (Reply #12)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 12:02 PM

18. +1

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Response to marmar (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 12:02 PM

17. you can't even xerox your ass anymore...nt

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Response to marmar (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 12:07 PM

20. What this 'Missionary Position' thingy mentioned in the article?

I'm also asking for a, um friend, who is a Godless Heathen and so knows not what kind of kinky shit the Republican Missionaries are up to these days.

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Response to marmar (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 12:07 PM

21. I was gone four days last week. . .

And gave a charge keys to the office. Now you have me rethinking the sticky stuff I found on the monitor.

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Response to Springslips (Reply #21)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 04:24 PM

26. That doesn't mean that your charge had sex in your office

They might have just watched porn in there. Does that make you feel better?

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Response to marmar (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 12:45 PM

23. Depends on the business.

Here in LA the adult film business people do it every day.

But now, due to a newly voted law, the male performers will have to wear condoms so the health department will have to send out inspectors to watch the porn shoots around the city. Their job will be to inspect erect penises all day to ensure they are properly encased before they have sex.

I wonder if they'll get a lot of volunteers for that assignment?

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Response to Kablooie (Reply #23)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 04:27 PM

27. Are they hiring?

And where would one get an application? I'm asking for a friend, you understand...

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Response to Kablooie (Reply #23)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 06:03 PM

30. Although isn't the porn industry threatening to move the shooting (pun intended) to Las Vegas?

nt

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Response to marmar (Reply #30)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 08:52 PM

33. Yep. Or possibly Hungary.

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Response to marmar (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 04:29 PM

28. I work from home, so I am getting a kick out of this ;) (nt)

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Response to marmar (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 04:32 PM

29. I came across someone having sex in the office once

I was working overtime, and thought I was the only one there (as did they, obviously). I had my German Shepherd with me, and he was very insistent that I should check out some noises that only he heard (I had no idea). It was pretty awkward for all of us.

The couple is happily married now, BTW

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Response to War Horse (Reply #29)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 06:05 PM

31. I accidentally walked in on a couple in the pre-sex, heavy makeout stage.....


...... I should have waited a couple more minutes.


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Response to marmar (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 06:16 PM

32. I used to work with a couple of people that kept doing it.

In fact, I think I even posted a DU poll asking whether I should turn them in because they were nasty about it and I could hear them in the supply room every time it happened...and both were married to other people.

One day, while they were in there, me and another co-worker put a can of cleaner on the guys desk along with an anonymous note asking him to AT LEAST have the courtesy of wiping the supply table off afterward. We never saw or heard anything inappropriate from them again. Curiously, neither of them ever brought their spouses to a holiday party after that either

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