HomeLatest ThreadsGreatest ThreadsForums & GroupsMy SubscriptionsMy Posts
DU Home » Latest Threads » Forums & Groups » Main » General Discussion (Forum) » A story to share with all...
Introducing Discussionist: A new forum by the creators of DU

Mon Nov 12, 2012, 11:50 PM

A story to share with all DU parents.

I also posted this in the parenting forum.

If you haven't been throgh this yet, don't worry, you will; you WILL.

My son is an great kid. He's 12 & 1/2 and looks like a young Denzel Washington. Last Saturday he went on his first date. He and a girl his age who've been both friends and foes since 2nd grade went to see "Taken 2" and then to Barnes & Noble for cheesecake. I'd seen the young woman at school and the library a number of times, but I only just actually met her when we picked her up to go so I could take them to the movie. She's a very pretty and very intelligent young woman and I was very impressed with her.

I stood in line with them just in case I had to tell the ticket seller that the girl's parents, as well as my wife and I approved of them seeing a PG13 movie. After that I didn't see them until my wife and I met them at B&N.

As with any parent, I'm proud of the new advances my son makes and I'm also heartbroken by what's being left behind. I'm proud of how my son followed every single rule we teach him about respect for women and how to act on a date and about just being himself. We also miss the baby, toddler and little kid as we a the young man developing in their place.

Don't get me wrong. At 12, there are still more times than not that I just want to knock him through the floor, especially when he just drops things at his ass when he could have just as easily put them where they belong 8 inches away. Still in all, my wife and I are proud of him and very happy that his first date was a success. I know that they want to do it again soon.

I just thought i'd share this with my fellow parents in the DU community. As I said at the beginning, if you haven't gone through this yet, you will!

That's my 2 cents and quite possibly overpriced at that.

PEACE!

16 replies, 1080 views

Reply to this thread

Back to top Alert abuse

Always highlight: 10 newest replies | Replies posted after I mark a forum
Replies to this discussion thread
Arrow 16 replies Author Time Post
Reply A story to share with all DU parents. (Original post)
MarianJack Nov 2012 OP
Tikki Nov 2012 #1
MarianJack Nov 2012 #9
defacto7 Nov 2012 #2
MarianJack Nov 2012 #10
MuseRider Nov 2012 #3
MarianJack Nov 2012 #11
liberal_at_heart Nov 2012 #4
BillyJack Nov 2012 #7
liberal_at_heart Nov 2012 #8
MarianJack Nov 2012 #12
BelleCarolinaPeridot Nov 2012 #5
MarianJack Nov 2012 #13
Major Nikon Nov 2012 #6
MarianJack Nov 2012 #14
renate Nov 2012 #15
MarianJack Nov 2012 #16

Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Mon Nov 12, 2012, 11:57 PM

1. Parents rock this World...and children are some of our very best...

And from what you're telling us, you all are having the times of your life.

Good job...

The Tikkis

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to Tikki (Reply #1)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 07:09 PM

9. Thank you, Tikke,...

...being a parent is fun, although sometimes I want to kick his round little rump for him.

PEACE!

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 12:06 AM

2. It's a good feeling when you realize they are growing up to be

really great people!

Oh, but I do miss when they are little ones. Really, the teens can be great too. You find you have to listen more, talk a little less but the part that's still child wants that safe place and they really still want it. It may not seem that way sometimes, but no matter how tough they want to be, it's hard growing up.

Never miss giving them a hug at least once a day. Never miss! It pays off for all of you.

Been a dad for 29 years and that's my 2 cents.

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to defacto7 (Reply #2)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 07:10 PM

10. Thats one heck of a good 2 cents, defacto7!

PEACE!

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 12:11 AM

3. Thanks for sharing!

I miss those days. Mine are 27 and 29 now. Neither are married but they live about 65 miles away so we are not involved unless they get really involved (then you will have to go through separation from a long term girlfriend you ended up loving that they end up not loving ).

It sounds like you are great parents and it is always so good to hear these stories, we usually only hear the failures. Every day is a new day with new problems and new wonders. I don't think there is anything I have ever done or ever will do that compares to the joys of being a parent. Keep enjoying him, it gets even better I promise .

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to MuseRider (Reply #3)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 07:12 PM

11. Thanks for the kind words, MuseRider!

PEACE!

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 12:13 AM

4. can't say I'm all that excited about the dating part

I have told both my kids that my favorite part of being a parent is watching your children who start out as blank slates turn into the individuals that they are going to be with their own personalities, opinions, talents, likes, dislikes, fears, and dreams. Having them in my life is a priviledge. My daughter is going to be moving out soon. I don't know how I'm going to deal with that. It's going to break my heart.

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to liberal_at_heart (Reply #4)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 01:14 AM

7. Love your signature line. eom

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to BillyJack (Reply #7)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 01:27 AM

8. thank you

education is becoming a passion of mine.

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to liberal_at_heart (Reply #4)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 07:14 PM

12. I'm not looking forward to my boy moving out either.

Fortunately, it's not that close (not that far away, either).

PEACE!

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 12:14 AM

5. Great read!!!! :)

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to BelleCarolinaPeridot (Reply #5)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 07:15 PM

13. Thanks!

I'm glad to share.

PEACE!

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 12:19 AM

6. At that age, the fun is just getting started

Last edited Tue Nov 13, 2012, 07:52 PM - Edit history (1)

My kids are 16 and 23. My son is the oldest. After my son hit puberty he gradually started getting an independent streak. It was hard to deal with at first because things were definitely changing. He would do things like you're describing with your child and we would get upset, which definitely didn't help things. A good friend of mine is a psychologist and really put things in perspective. She said you have to change with your child. Rather than just being dictatorial, you have to incorporate them into the decision making process which means really listening to them, accepting their input, and working together as a family. At that stage, you can't just adopt a my way or the highway mentality which worked so well when they were 8.

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to Major Nikon (Reply #6)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 07:17 PM

14. Thank you for the advice, Major Nikon.

My wife and I know that we don't have all the answers, although our son thinks that HE does.

PEACE!

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 07:34 PM

15. that's so sweet!

He sounds like a darling. And I TOTALLY KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN ABOUT PUTTING THINGS AWAY (sorry, didn't mean to yell... guess I just had to vent). I eventually pretty much gave up on that, even though picking up after them drives me crazy. Their brains don't process the world like ours do and they just don't see putting things away, or doing anything they don't feel like doing, as a priority. At all. But that's okay. It's just their nature.

It's such a bittersweet joy to have moments like your son's first date. It's sad at the time but afterwards you're just so darn proud of who they're becoming.

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to renate (Reply #15)

Tue Nov 13, 2012, 08:54 PM

16. They were very cute together,...

...although my son would HATE me saying it.

PEACE!

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink

Reply to this thread