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Sun Nov 11, 2012, 07:11 PM

Dear America, I know how much you like to commemorate veterans and it's great...

But please don't forget that were are women veterans. Right now, there are over 2 million of us in the United States. Please, don't look down on us for saying we're veterans because we are women (which is what happened tonight at Olive Garden).

I was told twice that I was ordering off the wrong menu (the one for veterans). The second waitress asked for proof and looked at me like I was a lying piece of trash. I provided my VA card which says "service connected" on the front of it.

This was actually a demeaning experience.

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Reply Dear America, I know how much you like to commemorate veterans and it's great... (Original post)
cynatnite Nov 2012 OP
Texasgal Nov 2012 #1
niyad Nov 2012 #2
Skittles Nov 2012 #3
Texasgal Nov 2012 #18
Summer Hathaway Nov 2012 #4
Kaleva Nov 2012 #5
Deep13 Nov 2012 #6
MADem Nov 2012 #7
pangaia Nov 2012 #8
Arcanetrance Nov 2012 #9
nadinbrzezinski Nov 2012 #10
Scootaloo Nov 2012 #11
oldhippydude Nov 2012 #12
DollarBillHines Nov 2012 #13
cynatnite Nov 2012 #14
Cha Nov 2012 #16
vankuria Nov 2012 #26
BlancheSplanchnik Nov 2012 #28
LiberalFighter Nov 2012 #34
Cha Nov 2012 #15
jody Nov 2012 #17
Control-Z Nov 2012 #19
libdem4life Nov 2012 #20
MineralMan Nov 2012 #21
cynatnite Nov 2012 #22
MineralMan Nov 2012 #23
Jeff In Milwaukee Nov 2012 #24
USMCMustang Nov 2012 #25
Chorophyll Nov 2012 #27
blue sky at night Nov 2012 #29
SaveAmerica Nov 2012 #30
heaven05 Nov 2012 #31
SaveAmerica Nov 2012 #32
SeattleVet Nov 2012 #33
w8liftinglady Nov 2012 #35
DemoTex Nov 2012 #36

Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 07:13 PM

1. What a DAMN good post!

Yes! I agree...

Women have been a big part of the military for a long time. We should NOT forget them!

Thank you for this post, really... THANK YOU. K&R

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 07:16 PM

2. what a horrible experience for you--I hope you spoke with the manager immediately. you are

correct, people do seem to forget that there are, in fact, women service members and vets.

I remember reading years ago about one of the WASPS-- her daughter was doing a paper about her mother's experiences, and the teacher gave the girl an "f"--saying that women were never pilots.

I am so sorry this happened to you.

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 07:16 PM

3. ME, ME!!!

USAF!!

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Response to Skittles (Reply #3)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 07:45 PM

18. Thank you Skittles!

I am so proud to be in a circle with a "Kick ass" veteran!

Thank you for your service!

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 07:16 PM

4. Thank you for your service, cynatnite

And you're right, that was a demeaning experience, and should never have happened.

I can only wonder what rock the wait staff you encountered have been living under, in order to NOT know that there are female vets.

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 07:17 PM

5. Rec'd

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 07:17 PM

6. Wow, unbelievable. nt

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 07:18 PM

7. I'd send a note to the frigging Olive Garden corporate HQ.

I'd tell them about your shitty experience.

There's no excuse for it. None whatsoever.

Fill out the form at this link and give them an earful:

https://www.olivegarden.com/Secure/Connect/?schemeredirect=true


You could call them if you'd prefer:

Olive Garden Customer Service Phone Number
1 (800) 331-2729

Now I have another reason to avoid those assclowns--their food sucks, now I find out they are shitty to my peers. Not cool.

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 07:18 PM

8. To soften the blow a little..

You have a president who has been told to show is birth certificate for 4 years. :>)

Hang in there...

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 07:19 PM

9. Great post

My stepmother is a veteran and she has the same problem and she's one of the toughest people I know

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 07:20 PM

10. Yup, it is annoying.

(And I am putting it mildly).

Many still do not realize women folk serve, and in harms way no less.

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 07:21 PM

11. I hope you had a word with the manager

and informed him his establishment will no longer be receiving your money.

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 07:22 PM

12. for what its worth THANK YOU

for your service & being here!!

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 07:29 PM

13. In our town, this entire day has been dedicated to women vets.

Flyovers, bands, women's vet organization.

All day long.

Oh, and thanks, cynatnite.
DBH

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 07:30 PM

14. Update: I spoke with the manager...

She was stunned by how I was treated and promised to speak with the staff and more specifically the one who wanted proof. She said I should not have had to do that at all. I am getting a gift card.

Still not sure I want to go back after this.

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Response to cynatnite (Reply #14)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 07:34 PM

16. Good to know!

I mean really.. proof?!

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Response to cynatnite (Reply #14)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 09:29 PM

26. Glad to know

you spoke with the manager. And thank-you for your service!

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Response to cynatnite (Reply #14)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 09:34 PM

28. thanks for following up on it and updating us.

Jerks!

You rock.

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Response to cynatnite (Reply #14)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 09:48 PM

34. Since you got some satisfaction from the manager...

I would suggest now that you consider contacting your local newspaper to do a story about female military next year. You could mention that some people don't believe that women serve and had an incident but DON'T include the business in question since they responded positively.

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 07:32 PM

15. I'm sorry that happened to you, cynatnite! And, it

never should have..thanks for your Service.

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 07:41 PM

17. Wish I had been with you not that you needed help. I'm proud of you. A veteran. nt

 

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 07:59 PM

19. I'm ashamed to admit this

but I've never even thought of my own sister as a veteran. I'm not sure why. She was in the Marines for 16 years and has been a reservist for more than 10. She guarded embassies in two foreign countries and served in the middle east in 2006 - 2007. My niece (her daughter) is an EOD specialist currently serving in Qatar.

My apologies to you and to all the women I've neglected to show my respect for.

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 08:06 PM

20. Wasn't the Olive Garden on the boycott list? Ditto that.

Two of my nieces served...none of my nephews. Go figure. And I'm damn proud of all 2 million of you. I had no idea.

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 08:06 PM

21. That's shameful on the part of Olive Garden.

This should go to national news. I hope the person who waited on you was summarily fired. If I had been the manager, that would have happened. I worked with a number of women in the USAF during my period of service. Shame on that person.

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Response to MineralMan (Reply #21)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 08:50 PM

22. What made it worse for me is that it was in front of my son. I wished he hadn't witnessed it. n/t

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Response to cynatnite (Reply #22)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 08:52 PM

23. It's just shameful. Had I witnessed it, the manager would have been

dealing with another veteran, and I'm pretty formidable in situations like that. The whole restaurant would have known about it.

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 09:09 PM

24. You should have asked for the manager...

Or simply left. There's no reason for you to be treated that way.

And thank you, and all your sisters in uniform, for their service to our country.

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 09:24 PM

25. Wow!

 

In my little brain I always include women vets in my thinking. My wife is active duty and I still hear people say they shouldn't be there. The look on their faces when I tell them she is over there.

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 09:32 PM

27. First, thank you for your service!

Second: nothing good ever happens at Olive Garden. And the staff who treated you like that should be goddamned ashamed.

But for you,

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 09:37 PM

29. I think this comes under the heading of ignorance...

so many people now a days are blind to social graces and never think twice about what they are saying or doing... I am so sorry this happened to you. I think women are coming to the forefront now as they are no longer going to stand for being treated as second class citizens...something you are truly not! I salute you today on Veterans Day, thanks for your service.

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 09:38 PM

30. That's ridiculous, I'm so sorry that happened to you!!

I'd love to take you to dinner and let you choose off of any part of the menu! Women Vets are very small in number but you sure did not make a smaller sacrifice! Thank you for your part in protecting the US!!

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 09:38 PM

31. God!

I wish I had been at the table next to you. I just don't understand the idiocy of some americans sometimes. I salute you. You are and your service is appreciated by me.

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 09:40 PM

32. You should have lifted your shirt and breastfed something - anything!!

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 09:40 PM

33. Both of my sisters also served

in the Air Force, as did I. (One served just between the dates for American Legion membership eligibility - she served between VietNam and Lebanon/Grenada.)

I don't think they've had any hassles like you experienced, though... that's just *wrong*.

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 09:54 PM

35. 1. I hate that you went through that. 2. We had the same problem in The dallas mornings news

Every photograph, every article had exclusively male photos and names.
I had to remind the editorial board that there are FEMALE veterans,too.

Stay proud,and thank you.

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Response to cynatnite (Original post)

Sun Nov 11, 2012, 09:54 PM

36. Dad had three brothers and six sisters

All but the youngest sister served in WW-II. Nine out of ten served in WW-II! It was an incredible family committment that was not unusual at the time.

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