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Wed Oct 24, 2012, 10:15 PM

Rape .... a man's story

I have never written about this but here I go .....

Years ago I had a good friend die as the result of fighting a rapist ...... I knew she
wanted more out of her relationship w/ me than I was willing to give but she had
one the best and truest hearts in the world. She got shot in the throat but still she was
able to call 9-11 but because of her wounds she had a loss of oxygen to her brain
and which caused a vegetative coma ..... she died w/ in 18 months .... both of her
elderly parents died because of the stress with in a year of the crime too.

The police later arrested a serial rapist ... a detective told me that he was
a good suspect in the attack on my friend. I would not go to his trial on
another rape case because of what I wanted to do that man ...... it still
bothers me to have to kill a woodchuck in a live trap @ a customer's
home but I would have had no problem "spending time" w/ that piece
of crap.

These are feelings that I have had deep inside of me and after time i don't
think about my friend anymore or her attacker but when these scum buckets
bring up rape in a political context it puts me in a very bad place.

How dare these bastards talk about rape, God's plan, and what they think
is the right thing to do?

If you are a woman or you have ever cared about a woman how could
you vote ever for "them"?

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Botany Oct 2012 OP
Darth_Kitten Oct 2012 #1
jonpaulprime Oct 2012 #2
riderinthestorm Oct 2012 #3
Tigress DEM Oct 2012 #4
Botany Oct 2012 #9
NRaleighLiberal Oct 2012 #5
gkhouston Oct 2012 #22
NRaleighLiberal Oct 2012 #26
Sparkly Oct 2012 #6
ProudProgressiveNow Oct 2012 #7
freshwest Oct 2012 #8
nolabear Oct 2012 #10
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myrna minx Oct 2012 #11
blkmusclmachine Oct 2012 #12
Marmitist Oct 2012 #13
condoleeza Oct 2012 #15
condoleeza Oct 2012 #14
bleever Oct 2012 #16
beac Oct 2012 #17
Stargazer09 Oct 2012 #18
renate Oct 2012 #19
Spitfire of ATJ Oct 2012 #20
noiretextatique Oct 2012 #21
gkhouston Oct 2012 #23
REP Oct 2012 #24
War Horse Oct 2012 #25
rhett o rick Oct 2012 #27
David Zephyr Oct 2012 #28
Schema Thing Oct 2012 #29

Response to Botany (Original post)

Wed Oct 24, 2012, 10:18 PM

1. I'm so sorry for your friend, her family, and you.

I can't imagine having that much rage and pain brought up constantly.


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Response to Botany (Original post)

Wed Oct 24, 2012, 10:18 PM

2. powerful

powerful story, thank you for sharing. The Republican War on Women is all too real.

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Response to Botany (Original post)

Wed Oct 24, 2012, 10:20 PM

3. No words are adequate to express my solidarity, horror, grief and regret

Please know that there are a lot of DUers who are always here to listen though.

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Response to Botany (Original post)

Wed Oct 24, 2012, 10:21 PM

4. So sorry for your loss. He raped her, but stole your life that you two could have had.

About women voting for Robme.... Some people are brainwashed. I'd never vote for Robme.

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Response to Tigress DEM (Reply #4)

Wed Oct 24, 2012, 10:24 PM

9. He did not rape her .... she put up a fight

my life has been good over all but when idiot men talk about
rape it still gets to me.

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Response to Botany (Original post)

Wed Oct 24, 2012, 10:23 PM

5. you took their easy talking points, and by humanizing it, created great power.

As a man with three women he adores (wife and two daughters), the right wings' attitudes toward women are simply indescribable.

Thanks for sharing your story. It certainly deeply moved me.

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Response to NRaleighLiberal (Reply #5)

Thu Oct 25, 2012, 05:03 PM

22. And here's the thing that many RW followers don't get: they don't give a shit about men, either. nt

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Response to gkhouston (Reply #22)

Thu Oct 25, 2012, 05:34 PM

26. indeed - only themselves, money and power.

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Response to Botany (Original post)

Wed Oct 24, 2012, 10:24 PM

7. Powerful testimony.

Thank you.

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Response to Botany (Original post)

Wed Oct 24, 2012, 10:24 PM

8. Botany, thank you for memorializing this here and your opinion.

Words are not adequate to give comfort here. I only have tears.

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Response to Botany (Original post)

Wed Oct 24, 2012, 10:27 PM

10. Rape harms more people than we can ever know. I'm so sorry you're being retraumatized.

There's a smugness to the pronouncements the RW makes, a lack of understanding and empathy and compassion that I find truly hard to fathom. The only succor we can provide is to create a world where rape is almost unheard of, and when it does happen the victim and those who love her (or him) are treated with love, with respect, and are given choices and help with going on with their lives as best they can.

And we can create that through mAking those RW fools and their ideas a thing of the past.

It was brave of you to post. Peace.

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Response to Botany (Original post)

Wed Oct 24, 2012, 10:27 PM

11. .

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Response to Botany (Original post)

Wed Oct 24, 2012, 10:33 PM

13. You feel bad, because the woodchuck is an innocent creature, who, bothersome though they may be...

 

Doesn't deserve to be exterminated. There is no innocence to these Republican bastards.

Too bad we can't treat them they way that we do the woodchucks... Fortunately, the old, angry white man contingent is dying off, so nature is doing that for us. Within less than a generation there will still be people who vote Republican, but there will not be a viable national party left. They'll win local, and state contests, and there will still be a smattering of Republicans who get into the House and the Senate, but after we reach that tipping point, they'll never have a majority of either house of Congress ever again, and they'll never win the Presidency again either.

Mark my words, it's coming, more slowly than I would prefer, but it IS coming. They know it, hence their desperate employment of every dirty trick in the book to try and forestall their own political demise for one (hopefully) last time.

Karl Rove once spoke of his hope to create a "permanent Republican majority"... Well, thanks to the cacophany of complete and utter lunatic assholes who comprise the Right today, we (again, hopefully) will have a permanent Democratic majority for years, nay, decades to come. A-Fucking-Men!

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Response to Marmitist (Reply #13)

Wed Oct 24, 2012, 10:45 PM

15. I hope you're right, Marmitist n/t

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Response to Botany (Original post)

Wed Oct 24, 2012, 10:43 PM

14. Thank you, it's important to talk about this

Anyone who has been raped or sexually assaulted or knows someone who has, is reliving it now and if you multiply just the female statistics of 1 in 3 by the age of 18, that touches a lot of people who were victimized or had loved ones who were, female and male. I'm just so tired of reliving my own family nightmare every 4 years, so tired of the men who make rape/reproduction/abortion etc. an issue in every election, when they so clearly are just pandering to their party's religious convictions and really don't give a shit.

God, the absolute stupidity of nearly half the people in this country is just so depressing. That's what religion does and why I'm an Atheist.

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Response to Botany (Original post)

Wed Oct 24, 2012, 11:22 PM

16. Thank you, sir.





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Response to Botany (Original post)

Wed Oct 24, 2012, 11:44 PM

17. Thank you.

Rape is a CRIME. The GOP claims to be the party of law and order but, to them, rape is a "gift from God"/"just another method of conception"/rarely "legitimate".

How can ANYONE, man or woman, vote for these rape lovers?????

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Response to Botany (Original post)

Thu Oct 25, 2012, 12:16 AM

18. Hugs

I am sick of hearing that rape isn't such a bad thing. It brings back the trauma for me, too.

It hurts. A lot.

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Response to Botany (Original post)

Thu Oct 25, 2012, 12:37 AM

19. oh, i am so sorry

He stole three lives and left a gaping hole in yours. There just aren't words for how cruel and how horrible that was, but you did a wonderful job of describing her inner being--which that beast could never touch--and of expressing your pain.

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Response to Botany (Original post)

Thu Oct 25, 2012, 12:52 AM

20. They are using God to justify their evil....

And the thing is,...they know it....

They also know they have created a loyal following that actually believes they are showing them the way to heaven.

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Response to Botany (Original post)

Thu Oct 25, 2012, 04:59 PM

21. these bastards think of rape as "rough sex"

they don't think about the women, like your dear friend, as victims of violence. instead, they identify with rapists and their demon seed. disgusting, they whole lot of 'em
i aborted a rapist's seed, and never, ever regretted it.

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Response to Botany (Original post)

Thu Oct 25, 2012, 05:04 PM

23. Botany, you have always been my fave.

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Response to Botany (Original post)

Thu Oct 25, 2012, 05:10 PM

24. I'm so sorry

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Response to Botany (Original post)

Thu Oct 25, 2012, 05:19 PM

25. What saddens me the most

is that it's really, really necessary that such horrible stories really HAVE to be brought to the forefront for some people to even come close "getting it".

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Response to Botany (Original post)

Thu Oct 25, 2012, 05:45 PM

27. Why do women vote republican? nm

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Response to Botany (Original post)

Thu Oct 25, 2012, 05:59 PM

28. Sorry to hear that, Botany. Rape is rape. It's not "God's will".

These Republican men seem so comfortable talking about rape so casually and pontificating about it. They are scum.

K&R.

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Response to Botany (Original post)

Thu Oct 25, 2012, 08:39 PM

29. ugh... this gets at me because I was raised in a religion that told women they should fight to the


death to avoid rape. Yep. Otherwise they might be "committing fornication". Hell if I dug deep enough I could probably find a Watchtower that claims the child produced from rape is a gift from Jehovah. Whether they said that or not, they sure as hell wouldn't let you abort it, that's for damn sure.


I shit you not.


I knew / but did not know that they were wrong. It screws with a young person's mind.

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